My son was mad at me when I picked him up from school yesterday. He thought he was going to his after school program on the bus and was very disappointed to see me waiting for him to take him home. “Why didn’t you tell me,” he angrily said to me as he glared. If you read my posts, you already know that riding the bus is one of his newest obsessions, and truly I felt bad that I didn’t properly prepare him.
The minute we walked into the house, he sat down at our kitchen table with crayons and construction paper. “I’m making you a chart.” Next thing I knew, he was walking me into my bedroom to show me that he had just hung a chart on the wall next to my bed. “You can earn stickers and smily faces if you’re nice and you tell me you love me,” he said so pleased with his project. Within 10 minutes, I had earned enough stickers to get a prize. (Pat on the back for me!) He gave me a toy plastic horse from his room. (Of course, it seems to have already found its way back to his room. Guess it was just on loan!)
I’m proud of my son for this behavior chart. First, it’s obvious that he’s learning right from wrong. Finally! Also, he was problem solving…figuring out ways to get me to do what he wanted and what he considered appropriate. Too bad he started getting mean about the chart and too bossy. He was on the right track, but he just didn’t know where to stop. So my song of the day for him is Tears for Fear’s “Everybody Wants to Rule the World.” Click HERE for the Youtube link. Good for my son for trying to make this world that best that it can be for him. Now maybe he’ll learn that it’s ok when not everything goes the way he wants it to.