Sometimes I watch my kids with envy. When we go out…whether it’s at a restaurant, grocery store or doctor’s office, and there is another little kid there….they strike up an instant friendship. They’ll peer at each other with big eyes and silly little giggles, and the next thing you know, it’s like they’ve known each other all of their lives. Friendships to children are effortless. There is plenty in common: characters on TV, toys, chasing each other with laughter, love for mommy and daddy and pets. My kids feel that every young person has been put on the planet just for them.
As we get older, making real friendships becomes so much more difficult. First of all…when is there ever time to actually hang out with someone? At best, I might be able to squeeze in an evening once every blue moon. Also….interests vary and become much more complex. Usually I align myself with other musicians, because music is a language that really doesn’t need any small talk. Other than that, my most sincere no holds bar relationships are from when I was younger. Those were the friendships I was able to cultivate, nourish and spend time on.
I’m happy in my life, and thank goodness for my very best friend…my husband. As I watch other ladies go out regularly for girl’s nights together though, I just wonder how they do it. How do they free themselves of responsibilities to give themselves enough time to bond? Do they not work? Do they pay for babysitters often enough so they can go out? It really boggles my mind.
I’m not feeling sad about this, but I can’t help but look at these people with wonder and curiosity. The perfect song for this topic is “We’re Going to Be Friends.” I thought that Jack Johnson wrote it for the “Curious George” soundtrack, but today I learned that the song was surprisingly originally written by The White Stripes. The song seems uncharacteristic for the White Stripes, and I would have never guessed it was theirs. It’s a great outlook on friendship though, so click HERE to go to Youtube to hear The White Stripes perform it.
I hope you all have a lovely Sunday filled with friends and surrounded by laughter and love. I am happy to say we’re headed to a party later today with kind people who live the same crazy and hectic life that we do. Hopefully we’ll get some grown up time to chat while our children chaotically play all around us.